Qn no 8: According to Quran and Sunnat, how much right [haq] a daughter-in-law and her children have on her father-in-law’s earnings, if her father-in-law has an income?
5………a daughter-in-law has same right [haq] on a father-in-law’s earnings as his own children.
6……….a daughter-in-law has as much right [haq] on her father-in-law’s earnings, as her husband has, on his father. This means a wife has right to all that her husband owns, whether it comes from his own earnings, or his father.
7………none at all.
Ans no 8: is option 6……….a daughter-in-law has as much right [haq] on her father-in-law’s earnings, as much her husband has, on his father. This means a wife has all the right to all that her husband owns, whether it comes from his own earnings, or he is getting it from his father, or from any one. All that a husband owns is owned by his wife and children too.
We note here that all these relationships (parents, children, husbands & wives), which are very sweet, near & dear, and important to humans, have financial rights on each other. As faltering human beings, we observe, there will always be some servants who will be financially more well off than the others. And there will always be some servants who will be expecting to have more than the others but not getting enough, as much as they want to have. So these financial discrepancies could initiate bad feelings in normal, weak human hearts. Now the question arises how a person can stay happy & satisfied and in a good, healthy, working condition. And refrain from bad feelings, like depression, jealousy, hatred, discrimination, and bad intentions like injustice, prejudice, pride, arrogance (takabber) etc. etc. As these are negative feelings so are bound to make a weak human heart & soul, still weaker. These negative feelings create chaos & disorder and disturb the harmony between the inner spirit, soul, of a servant and the outer physical world around him/ her. This harmonization between the physical outer world and the inner soul is extremely necessary, to achieve the optimum working condition of the body and mind.
Allah gives a very true and practical solution to this problem. These problems can easily and amicably be tackled when the faithful has a strong & full, trust, confidence and reliance on Allah Sub- han Wa Ta’ala. Believing that Allah is The Only Giver and The All-Giver is the key to solution. This strong belief in Allah makes the faithful emotionally extremely strong. The faithful believes that what ever a faithful has, is because Allah gave it to him/ her. And what ever the faithful does not have, that is also because Allah does not want to give that to him/ her. What ever Allah wants to give to a faithful, whether the faithful is a mother, a father, a son, a daughter, a husband or a wife, He Sub- han Wa Ta’ala gives it to him/ her. And nothing and no one, na’oozo billah (may Allah forgive me for saying it, but it is only to explain), has the power to restrict or stop Him All-Mighty from giving it to the one, He Sub- han Wa Ta’ala wants to give it to. In the same way whatever Allah does not want to give to the servant, no matter how hard the servant tries, and no matter how much politics the servant plays among the people around, if Allah does not want to give it to the servant, the servant can not have it. Allah shows the faithful, the true way to deal with these situations. The proper way to deal with it is to do exactly as Allah orders. That is the servant must all the time work hard, truthfully and sincerely, because Allah loves truthful, sincere, hard- workers and after working hard, up to servant’s maximum abilities, the servant must pray to Allah to accept his/ her hard work and reward him/ her in the best way possible. The faithful must all the time count his/ her blessings and remain humble to all he/ she meets. All the time the faithful must try to help his/ her fellow beings. And always remain thankful to Allah All-Mighty for all that He gave him/ her. Also remain grateful and thankful to his/ her parents & spouse even if the servant does not fully understand the sacrifices they made for the servant.
To understand it best is to consider the true fact that Allah is The Creator. And while creating this whole universe, including what ever is in it, and including us humans, He Sub- han Wa Ta’ala, put us at the places (place by birth, place by work, place by relationships), which He chose for us. And we know, as He tells us, that nothing could be better than what He has already done. This is the best place for each of us. And He Sub- han Wa Ta’ala gave us these relationships. All these relationships are a test for the servant. He/ she must deal with these relationships with love, sincerity, truthfulness, justly and humbly. And maintain a balance while dealing among them, as much as is humanly possible. While dealing with the relationships the faithful must all the time keep remembering Allah and try to maintain good relations only to make Allah happy. When ever a thing is done for Allah, He Sub- han Wa Ta’ala makes it easy for the faithful to do it.
After keeping a state of mind as Allah orders, and practically doing as Allah orders, the servant knows that he/ she is doing things the best way. So the soul of the faithful becomes pure and strong. There are no black spots of bad feelings, like depression, jealousy, hatred, discrimination, and bad intentions like injustice, prejudice, pride, arrogance (takabber) etc. etc. to make the faithful’s life ugly, intolerable, and hard. There fore the faithful is in complete harmony between the physical outer world and the inner soul. And so achieves the optimum working condition of the body and mind, and enjoys a healthful, peaceful, happy, content and satisfied life.
I pray may Allah make it easy for us all to do all things for Allah All-Mighty, and make it easy for us to make our relationships better for His All-Mighty’s happiness. Ameen, thume amen. And may Allah make all of us good, responsible parents to our children, good, responsible children to our parents, good, responsible spouses and good responsible relatives. Amen, thume amen.
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